After the Panic Attack, What Comes Next? EMDR Therapy in Carlsbad, CA for Teens Who Want to Feel Safe Again
If your teen has ever had a panic attack, you know how terrifying it can be—for them, and for you as a parent. Their breathing speeds up, their heart races, and they might feel dizzy, shaky, or like they’re going to pass out. Some describe it as feeling like they’re dying, even though no physical danger is present. And when the panic subsides, what lingers is often confusion, fear, and the desperate question: Will this happen again?
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working with teens, I see a lot of clients dealing with panic attacks and the ripple effect they leave behind. Sometimes it’s a one-time experience that leaves a big emotional mark. Other times, it becomes a cycle, where fear of another panic attack starts to shape a teen’s life. They may avoid certain places, situations, or even people, just in case. They stop feeling safe in their own body.
That’s where EMDR therapy comes in.
The Emotional Aftermath of a Panic Attack
A panic attack can feel like a betrayal from the inside out. Teens often don’t understand why it happened or what triggered it. They may feel embarrassed or ashamed, especially if the attack happened in public or in front of friends. And even when they seem fine on the outside, many carry a lingering fear that it could happen again at any moment.
Parents often ask me, “What can we do now?” They want to help, but don’t always know how. Traditional talk therapy can be useful, but for many teens, it’s hard to talk about what happened, especially when they’re not even sure how to explain it themselves.
That’s one reason I use EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) with teens who’ve experienced panic attacks. It offers a different way of processing that doesn’t rely solely on words.
Why EMDR Works for Panic
EMDR is a structured, brain-based therapy that helps the nervous system complete the processing of overwhelming or distressing experiences. It uses bilateral stimulation (like eye movements, tapping, or sounds) to help the brain reprocess memories or emotional material that got “stuck.”
When a panic attack happens, especially for the first time, it can register in the brain as a traumatic event. The body goes into full fight-or-flight mode, and sometimes the experience gets “frozen” in the nervous system. Even after the panic subsides, reminders like a classroom, a smell, or a specific thought can re-trigger that same level of fear.
With EMDR, we don’t just talk about the panic. We help the brain and body complete the experience, so the memory no longer feels like a live wire. This doesn’t mean erasing what happened; it means helping your teen feel safe again, both mentally and physically.
What EMDR Therapy Looks Like for Teens
EMDR with teens is always paced gently and with a lot of collaboration. Here’s what it often looks like:
Building safety first: We don’t jump into the panic memory right away. First, we build a strong foundation of trust and emotional safety. Teens learn calming tools and begin to feel more grounded in their sessions.
Identifying triggers and stuck points: We gently explore what the panic attack felt like and when it started. We look at possible triggers—both obvious and subtle.
Reprocessing with bilateral stimulation: Once a teen is ready, we use EMDR techniques to help the brain reprocess the memory of the panic attack or the deeper experiences that might have led up to it.
Installing new beliefs: Through EMDR, many teens shift from beliefs like “I’m not safe” or “Something is wrong with me” to “I’m okay now” or “I can trust myself again.”
What’s especially helpful about EMDR is that it often feels less overwhelming for teens. They don’t need to go into every detail or explain things perfectly. Their brain gets to do the work in a more organic way.
Life After Panic
Teens who’ve gone through EMDR for panic often report feeling more confident, calmer, and more in control. They start going back to the places or situations they avoided. They feel less dread when the what-ifs pop into their mind. Most importantly, they begin to feel safe in their own body again.
That sense of safety isn’t just about preventing another panic attack—it’s about giving teens their freedom back. The freedom to go to school without fear, to hang out with friends, to show up for sports or performances, to enjoy being a teenager again.
Final Thoughts
A panic attack can feel like everything is unraveling. But with the right support, it doesn’t have to define your teen’s future. EMDR therapy offers a gentle, effective path toward healing that helps teens feel safe, empowered, and in control again.
If your teen has experienced a panic attack and is still feeling the effects—whether they talk about it or not—therapy can help. I work with teens who are ready to move past fear and into freedom. If you’re curious about whether EMDR might be the right fit, I’d love to connect.
Katherine Madsen